My sister has a blogtalk radio show and I’m usually on the show either commenting or as a guest. Many times we have spoken on topics that are mainly of interest to women, overall my sister Mari gives the men equal time and topics. We talk about everything under the sun, and on girls club Friday it can and usually does get a little crazy anyway one time we were talking about menopause and women issues and after the show ended I thought to myself that more men should be in on this conversation because women are a very integral part of men and they should really try to understand how we women function.
Menopause will eventually affect them in every way because they have to deal with us in every way so why not talk about it. I have been dreaming of a time that men and women can have straight talk with each other and cut all the bullshit we usually fog each others lives with, but I don’t see it happening yet the way I would like it to happen but then again ….in my reality men and women are totally capable of having beautiful understanding communication and relationships. My reality just need to wait for everyone to live in it or I can become a one woman crusade to bring on a deeper, more loving understanding of men and women, I don’t know! but what I do know is that I’m willing to have this conversation, I’m willing to put myself out there, I’m willing to be vulnerable, share my life experiences and personal workings and sometimes comedic views so that we can communicate and maybe learn something from each other, maybe.
My sister also has a website www.maritorres.com and she hosts a poetry spot there. I posted my menopause blogs and also poetry that I have written. Yes by all means go check it out I’m sure you will love it. A gentleman that goes by the name of truvue is a fan of my sister’s show and he too has a blogtalk radio show. Well I checked out his show one afternoon and I saw that he was going to be doing a show on celibacy. I asked him to check out my poetry and also my blogs because I had written a poem about being celibate. He read both my blogs and poetry and invited me on to his show to speak a little about menopause and my take on what was going on with my body. We spoke about hot flashes, remedies, symptoms etc . There were women calling in and to my surprise quit a few men. We were having great conversation but I remember one man that called in and was talking about his relationship with his ex-wife or live in girlfriend (I can’t remember everything give me a break!!!). This gentleman stated that upon listening to the topic and what some of the women on the panel were saying he was seeing issues he was having with his ex in a new light and he now wondered if she too was going through perimenopause or menopause ? He actually said that listening to this conversation made him feel a little relieved because he really didn’t know what was happening to her at the time.
Although this was good because this is the kind of discussion we should be having I started to wonder, why do men have to be so stressed because they don’t know what is going on with us? And why must women go through this alone and in turn stress even more? We should be sharing whatever we learn about menopause and anything else we as women are unique to with our daughters, sons, husbands, friends and anyone that will listen because it’s not taboo, it’s not something to be ashamed of, it’s not a curse. It’s a rite of passage just like getting your menstrual cycle, your first kiss, your first love or crush, the first time you breast fed, and these are all rites of passage that we should embrace not fear.
Even though I joke about it a lot I do so because that is just how I choose to deal with it. I do have days when I’ve been up tossing and turning all night sweating like a man (yeah YUK) and in the morning I may be cranky because I haven’t slept, but at the end of the day I’m blessed to be a woman and it’s just not that serious for me be unhappy in my own body. I refused to let it come to that. I’m a pretty lively, colorful, crazy character, there is no way in hell I’m going to let something like menopause change my outlook on life not when I’m just beginning to enjoy me in all my ….ummm splendor..lol.
So I say let’s talk about it, start some dialog! by the way if you have any questions for me please feel free to comment I will answer your questions as honestly as I can....I think
Glendaliz (I ain't Skurred) Torres
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